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Simply watching this video right here will increase the probability of someone actually coming back. And in this video, I’m gonna show you the five reasons someone will come back and the five things you can actually do about it that will help shift to the energy so that you actually attract it back.
The first reason they may come back has to do with the grass being greener and realizing that it’s not as good as they may have thought.
And what happens with this is people, sometimes, they get a level of security or a level of certainty with somebody else and they may, in their mind then think maybe the grass is greener.
So what they do is they go out, they explore, and then they find out that it’s not as hyped up as it was in their mind. So one of the things that you can do that will really allow this process to work itself out is to simply release attachment.
Now, think of it energetically, the more someone is attached to somebody else, the more they are sending them energy, the more that they then feel repelled.
So many times what could actually be blocking somebody from coming to their own conclusions is an energy balance to where somebody is projecting energy at someone else because remember, people feel what you feel.
And if you are feeling lack, if you are feeling like you really wish something would be in your life but it’s not, then that lack is going out and someone else when they think of you, they are feeling the same thing.
They’re feeling what you feel. in a way, it’s almost like as we think of someone, we’re tapping into the energy that they’re feeling in that moment energetically, and this is why one of the most powerful things you can do is to simply let go of attachment and allow someone to learn what they are learning because that then gives it space for somebody else to come to their own realizations.
The more we try to control what someone is thinking or doing, or whether they’re enjoying themselves or whatever it is, the more we try to control it, the more they can feel it and the more it actually repels it.
it’s an interesting, energetic balance. And I’ve noticed it in so many of my friends that maybe go through a breakup, maybe have a hard time not thinking about somebody, but almost every single time, the moment they really take back their energy and they release attachment, and by the way, they’re not releasing attachment to then get this person to come back, they’re releasing attachment because they’re starting to put the energy more inside themselves.
Like nine times out of ten, it ends up coming back to them anyways and then they have a choice to make, do I reengage or do I actually maintain my boundaries? Now this is something else to think about too.
You may want them to come back. But at the same time, is it actually healthy? Because sometimes we will fight for childhood- So we’ll have a certain energy in our childhood, maybe our parents, our mom, or our dad treated us certain way, and then what happens
is we will fight for it in our relationships and not even be aware of it.
It’s something that we’re naturally attracting and we’re not even aware that that’s something that we want. So we’ll be fighting for somebody that may treat us like shit, may not even like us.
So it’s important to become aware of this because maybe then it makes it a little bit easier
for you to actually let go. Now, the second thing, the reason they left but also the reason they’ll come back has pretty much what I was talking about before which has to do with the energy balance.
Now notice, anytime you put someone on a pedestal you’ll immediately separate yourselves from them. And remember this saying, I’ve said it in a couple videos, if you treat someone like a celebrity, they will treat you like a fan.
So if we put someone on a pedestal we put someone on this high ranking thing,
they will then respond to us in that way.
People are responding to us based on the energy that we have trained them and allowed them to respond to us as. This is why sometimes you may start setting boundaries with people and they’re like, what are you doing?
You’ve never set boundaries with me before but now you’re setting boundaries? Well, you’ve trained them and allowed them to hold you accountable for a certain level of maybe sacrificing yourself to say yes to things you don’t want to do and they’re used to that.
So there’ll be an initial buffer period where maybe that doesn’t feel as an alignment. So with this energy balance thing, what you wanna do is you want to take people off a pedestal and realize that their validation, their support, their love, whatever you think it is, that is an externalization of your own power.